Hope and memory

Hope and memory

• We hope for a better future.
• We do good and hope for good in return.
• We hope for a better future and expect victory.
• We hope for things from other people.
• We hope for good weather.
• We hope for a long life.

From the very beginning, we live with hope. The moment we open our eyes to this world, we begin to expect things from it. As we grow, our hopes become larger and more complex. We hope for love, success, respect, happiness, security, and a better future.

But does hope always bring satisfaction?

No.

Hope can give us direction, but it can also become a source of suffering when we become too attached to the outcome we imagine.

When reality does not match what we expected, we may feel disappointed, frustrated, depressed, or lost. The pain often does not come from what actually happened, but from the distance between what we wanted to happen and what actually happened.

For example, we may do something good for another person and secretly expect kindness, respect, or appreciation in return. But that person may not respect us, may not care, or may never acknowledge what we did. We then feel hurt.

Why?

Because our action carried an expectation.

We gave something, but somewhere in our mind, we created an image of what we believed we would receive in return.

People often say that achieving our desires brings happiness. It can—but often only temporarily. Once we achieve one desire, another appears. And when something we strongly desire is taken away from us, the happiness attached to it can quickly turn into sadness, anger, or fear.

This does not mean that hope is bad.

Hope is one of the things that carries us forward.

Without hope, we might not study, work, love, build relationships, start businesses, create families, or dream about a better life. Hope gives us the courage to move toward the future.

The problem is not having hope.

The problem is believing that our hope must become reality.

We can hope for something while accepting that it may not happen. We can work toward a goal without believing that achieving it is the only way we can be happy.

We can do good without demanding that others repay us.

We can love without demanding that someone love us in exactly the same way.

We can dream about the future without forgetting to live in the present.

When something we hoped for does not happen, we should remind ourselves that the disappointment is temporary. A failed expectation is not a failed life.

Perhaps the healthiest way to live is to hope, but not cling; expect, but accept uncertainty; work toward something, but remain at peace with the possibility of not getting it.

What is hope, really?

Perhaps hope, expectation, and even the idea of the future are images created by the mind.

We imagine something that does not yet exist and give it a place in our future. Then we emotionally attach ourselves to that imagined outcome. We call it hope. When reality eventually matches the image, we feel happiness. When reality does not, we experience disappointment.

In that sense, hope is a thought about a future that has not happened yet—a mental image of something we wish to experience.

The future is uncertain.

The image in our mind is not.

And sometimes, we suffer because we mistake the image for reality.

Memory

We must talk about memory when we talk about hopes. Hopes become memories.   Memories are things stored in our minds. It’s a sort of storage. The hilarious thing is we make different feelings for our memories. Some are sad, some are happy, some are shameful, and some are fearful; likewise, we process different feelings for our memories. We think about old memories and process feelings for them. Sometimes we talk to them. This is MARA BANDHANA, or wrong awareness. If someone hits your head with a pole, your memory will be lost. Memory is the thing that makes us mature. If we have more memories, we will be more mature, but it’s a huge mirage. Thinking about the past is useless because it will process happy or sad feelings while you are processing it. Forgotten knowledge is the thing called super memory, according to me, the memory we didn’t achieve. Things we can remember are short-term memories; we can remember them for a short period, and that memory will be lost. If we can remember for a long time, it’s’s a long-time memory. All these things are mirage fully categorized concepts created from our minds, but there is a truth behind these things.

Memories are stored in neurons, simply in brain cells in our brain, according to science, but there is a hidden truth. We have lost memory; we didn’t achieve and it’s larger than the oceans surging the sand.

Collecting happy, cheerful memories can make you happy when you think about it, J. Every situation we face in our life has a memory; we feel the same when we think about it or the memory. It’s all about feelings we process and feelings we process for useless pictures and thoughts. These pictures and thoughts call memories